No one says it better than James Clear: “The more you repeat a behavior, the more you reinforce the identity associated with that behavior.” Embracing the right identity is the first step to attaining your desired results.
Extra Brownie Points for You
Take healthy eating as an example. People who are “healthy” would usually say no to a brownie. If you want to be a healthy person, you need to identify as a healthy eater. Once you identify as such, your actions will now be shaped by your identity. AKA, you will say no to the brownie, getting closer to your desired results.
Trick, Without the Treat
It’s really trickery for your brain. Imagine every time someone offered you a Juul hit, you said: “I realllly want one but, I’m trying to cut down but man would I love that right now.” Eventually, you will give in because, at your core, you still feel like someone who would take a hit. Instead, maybe you say “I don’t Juul, but thank you”. Point blank. You no longer debate it and the temptation leaves your system. You stop thinking about your craving and you move on from this mundane event. Also, it saves your friends a boring lecture about why you aren’t Juuling tonight.
If you want to be someone who meditates, you will no longer debate whether or not you will do it each morning. You can’t call yourself a meditator if you don’t meditate. Meditate. Meditate. Meditate. That word is starting to sound weird. Let’s move on.