We don’t like doing things we’re bad at. If we’re bad at running, we don’t want to run. If we’re bad at stretching, we don’t want to stretch. It’s human nature. But, you have to be bad at something before you’re good at it. Hot take!
A well-summarized passage by Christine Carter, a sociologist and Senior Fellow at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center: I’ve dropped habits I like when I feel like I’m not doing them well, and I keep doing things I don’t love because I am, technically, successful. Now, as I work to untangle my identity from my skills, I’m shedding many years’ worth of misguided ideas I’ve held about myself. Flip that on its head, and we arrive at the things we’re “bad” at. Shouldn’t we remove the same self-judgment when it comes to our “shortcomings” as well? If we’re not defined by what we’re “good” at, then we’re certainly not defined by what we’re “bad” at.
Slow Cooking in Discomfort
Stop avoiding things you don’t excel at. For example, I can’t cook so I don’t. Turn that into, I don’t know how to cook because I’ve never put effort into it, but I’ll start to cook more. It’s a willingness to embrace the discomfort. If you only do things you excel in, won’t you also lose the gratifying feeling of progression?
Friend of the Devil
We may all have become a little too friendly with the devils in our head, telling us we suck, telling us we can’t get through this. Well, that inner monologue is a b****. Just admit to how bad you are, and those voices in your head will lose all their power. Pro tip: while doing your small, unambitious habits, try singing some David Guetta lyrics to get you through it. Why does it feel soooooo good…so good to be bad! Lightens the mood.