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Reality Shmerality

Our reality is never static, it’s constantly changing based on what’s going on in our minds. You know how a one-minute plank feels like an hour, but a Bridgerton episode feels like 5 minutes? Yeah, that’s what we mean.

Reality is subjective, it’s based on how we experience it. So, by cultivating a positive mindset and believing that we can change our circumstances, we can create a better reality.

Let’s bring it back to “The Happiness Advantage” by Shawn Achor. At one of his corporate seminars, he asked everyone to close their eyes and sing “Row Row Row Your Boat” in their heads. After a few minutes, everyone shared the amount of time they believed had passed. Some said 40 seconds, some said 5 minutes. This all depended on how they felt about the situation. It probably felt like a lifetime for the people annoyed that some random guy was telling them to sing. But, it may have felt like less than a minute for those who simply enjoyed the time away from their desks.


CTRL + MIND + ⇧ Shift

Oprah - You get a meeting

A real 2021 realization: (Zoom) meetings that could have been e-mails. If you’re sitting in a boring meeting, wishing you had called in sick, make the best of your time by making it useful in some other way. Achor uses the example of giving yourself three things to learn throughout the meeting. If you’re not enjoying the presentation, then the lesson here could be about how not to give a presentation, how you would speak differently, how to best engage an audience over Zoom… Use this for all of your dreaded day-to-day tasks. If all we think about is how terrible it’ll be to write that term paper, redefine the task in your mind to having the opportunity to dive deep into a specific topic. Need to clean out your closet? Reframe it as the opportunity to donate items that will improve someone’s life.

We can do a similar thing with our free time. Free time is meant to unwind and recharge, hang out with family and friends, and enjoy ourselves. But, if we perceive it as a waste of time lacking in productivity, it’ll be just that. You won’t get all the benefits of the free time and you won’t return to work recharged.

One of our writers likes to use this mindset shift to enjoy her workouts. When you’re running, huffing and puffing, counting down the minutes before you’re done, try thinking of it a little differently. Take the opportunity to think about the fact that you’re able to challenge your body in such a way. So, instead of “I can’t believe I need to do this right now”, try, “I’m so lucky I can do this right now.” There was no way for that to not sound cheesy. Trust us, we tried. And trust us, it works.


I Think I Can, I Think I Can

A self-fulfilling prophecy is when those who believe they can improve, do improve. Seriously, believing in your own ability to succeed has a bigger impact on your level of success at work than your actual level of skill or training.

How? When we believe that we can accomplish what we set out to do, we’re motivated to do what’s necessary, leading us to succeed.

Stanford Psychologist, Carol Dweck, showed that believing that you can improve your skills is highly important, even more than believing in your own abilities. She chose to demonstrate this phenomenon in a study at Hong Kong University, a school with textbooks, classes, and exams in English, despite English not being the students’ first language. When asked who would want to take an English course, students with a growth mindset (determined using a questionnaire) accepted the offer, and those with a fixed mindset denied it. (A growth mindset is when you believe your abilities can change; A fixed mindset is when you believe your abilities are unable to change.) Basically, the students who believed in their ability to improve their English skills seized the opportunity and followed the path towards the greatest college results.

The Pyglomian Effect
You can do this

A note for anyone who manages, leads, or teaches: The Pyglomian Effect is a real thing. Achor explains, “When our belief in another person’s potential brings that potential to life.” Believing in your employees will increase their odds of succeeding. This is because you’ll subconsciously be treating them differently.

And, a final note for everyone. It’s important to remember that our mindset determines our experience of the world, and our mindset can definitely be changed. The world is not fixed and reality is relative.


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Our external circumstances predict only about 10 percent of our total happiness.

– Shawn Achor


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