Aka, don’t make conversations about you.
The reason we usually don’t let others have the glory, can be attributed to humility’s evil twin: ego. We all have soooome ego, which is a completely normal human experience. If you think you don’t—let me ask you this: do you have social media? Thought so. Ego is the part of you that needs attention, the part of you that interrupts your friend to say you actually have a funnier and even more ludicrous story from that time you also backpacked SE Asia.
Carlson thinks you should let others have the glory in your conversations. Most of us wait on the edge of our seat for the person to stop talking, so we can finally say what we assume will change the other person’s life. Or worse, we just flat-out interrupt. It’s a loss for us just as much as it is for them. To put it simply, it’s a bad habit.
Well, for one, you make the other person feel like sh*t, creating distance between you guys. It’s not the recipe for fun and meaningful conversations and relationships.
Takeaway: From now on, notice your inclination to try to make the conversation about yourself and stop yourself from doing it. You’ll be more present, the conversation will be more enjoyable, and trust me, the person you’re talking to will notice.
Quote: “There is something magical that happens to the human spirit, a sense of calm that comes over you when you cease needing all the attention directed towards yourself and instead allow others to have the glory.”